South Bay/Monterey Bay, occasionally Palm Springs, Oklahoma, points between, and wherever else I'm in the mood to travel. 6'1", 245 lb, bear, HIV+, versatile bottom. [COLOR firebrick]No latex, cigarette smoke[/COLOR], lanolin, or scents (colognes, perfumes, etc) for me. Allergies bite but they're not going away just because a guy's hot. Safer sex for me requires non-latex condoms. The Myers-Briggs test on this site determines that I'm a ENFP. I think that's close but not the best match according to much more in-depth evaluations. I tend to fluctuate on some axes, but at the core I'm INTP. Undisputed geek, here. Intellectual, HFA type that is well-socialized (sound like a dog, lol). Enjoy games a lot, though not really as much a video gamer as even I expected. I do play World of Warcraft. I was bored at a gamercon I attended, though, like they were all speaking a language I couldn't understand. My best friends would be seriously jazzed if I fell for an avid RPGer. I play because they like it, but even though I enjoy it from time to time, their enthusiasm can get on my nerves. Sharing that with a boyfriend would be a nice improvement for all of us. I'm really out of shape right now--a little pear-shaped, in fact. I couldn't exercise for a long time because of cancer and the treatments. Heck, I couldn't even raise my arms past horizontal for a couple of months after surgery. Now that my car runs, I'm healthy again, and I have a gym/pool membership, my primary battle is against inertia. I need to get my butt to the pool and gym. Once I have a week or two of working out, I'll totally be addicted to swimming and weight training again. I seem to be more versatile when I'm fit, too--probably a circulation and stamina thing.

My Ideal Person I've been totally out of the scene for a few years, no sex at all. Life gets ugly sometimes and sex just isn't a priority when single during supercrappy events, e.g. cancer.

NSA, groups, FB, FWB, or LTR. I'm mildly interested in all of them, though ultimately I think I'd like to settle into a nice LTR.

No latex, cigarette smoke, lanolin, or scents (colognes, perfumes, etc) for me due to strong allergies. Safer sex for me requires non-latex condoms. On the bright side, that means more lubes are safe, e.g. coconut oil (awesome stuff, btw).

I like guys of all shapes and sizes, but I have a serious thing for very THICK dicks owned by versatile tops. I like a good fatty for MY BUBBLE BUTT. Other bonus (but not necessary) characteristics are muscles, being taller than I, and a good kisser. I am mostly bottom yet enjoy topping, especially in a relationship. Should I get into a monogamous LTR with an exclusive top, I'm sure he'd oblige some intracrural (between the thighs) when I really want it.

I'm average hung yet interested in testing out some penis extenders both as top and bottom. I hate to exclude great guys who happen to be average hung like me when these toys might be adequate mitigation for "cravings"; and likewise it kinda sucks BEING excluded just because my dick's not huge.

I have a flexible but not entirely predictable schedule, mostly remain in my home area (Santa Cruz/Watsonville), though I like to travel when my car isn't acting up--always looking for a good excuse to get outta Dodge. I've been visiting Palm Springs once or twice a year when one of my friends is there. I also go to Oklahoma every two or three years and like to take my time following different routes.

I really love Santa Cruz, but I sometimes want to start over somewhere else with a great, honest guy. I hardly ever meet up anymore. It would be nice to enter into a real, lasting, secure relationship. Monogamy is not necessary, though as I get older I find myself leaning more and more toward that end of the polyamory spectrum. As long as we are both 100% honest and communicative, it's all good. For that matter, I'm not averse to a triad, as long as all the same principles apply well.

What are your favorite musicians or bands?:
Way too many people and genres to bother

Tell one of your favorite sexual fantasies. Don't hold back!:
I always considered myself pretty vanilla, but none of my fantasies seem to be permitted here. They don't involve torture, pain, bathrooms, or things better left in bathrooms. They just involve more than one guy, unusual endowment, and often a watery environment such as a pool, hot tub, or beach.

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Anal Sex, Rimming, Threesomes, Mutual Masturbation, Making Home "Movies", Participating in Erotic Photography, Voyeurism, multiple penetration, oversized, monster-thick dick

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Sexual experience, Open to ménage à trois and/or orgies, Sexual appetite, Willingness to freely discuss and try anything, Agreeable to a commitment free sexual relationship, Creativity/Kinkiness level, large endowment, particularly in thickness

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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